You are a Warrior

You are a Warrior….

Keep fighting even when your weapons are broken,your spirit will see you through.

Keep marching even when the marching band stops playing, the sound of your footsteps will create the music.

Keep going even when your feet are failing you,your belief will get you there.

Keep trying even when failure has been trying to befriend you,the spirit of trying again will see you through.

Keep praying even when results are delayed,your faith will get you the results.

Giving up is not in your make,because you were made to conquer the world and over.Keep fighting warrior,you are a role model to your kids, spouse, siblings,parents and admirers.We are looking at you,hold your head up high.

FIGHT to the end..

You need to push

The reality is…….

We may all be different in the way we look,think,talk or approach life.It is because we  are all unique and that I believe is what makes life beautiful(worth living).One thing i am certain about is that we have one common thing and it is  ” the desire to achieve”.Yes,achievement is not a garment that fits all sizes,but it is a garment that we all wish to own with the adjustments that may come with it for a “perfect fit”.

The desire to achieve (My perspective)

The desire to achieve is the primary reason we wake up each morning to chase our dreams and achieve  the goals we have set for ourselves.It is what it is, there is no way of discounting it.If you lack it,you technically have nothing to look forward to and without that you are as good as a walking dead man.

Failure is part of life

It is hard when failure keeps knocking at our doors when we try by all means to lock it out of our spaces.It is distracting  believe me I know.The sad part about life is that it throws in uncolorful tests which often leave us with low self-esteem and dampened spirits which  lead to us giving up.I wish i could say that failure will never find you when you are trying hard to achieve something,but i cannot because it is a reality of life.It catches up with us in one way or another (embrace it). What i can utter that is different is “YOU NEED TO KEEP PUSHING” no matter how many obstacles you may encounter.Truth is achievement is not far away from failure,they co-exist.

Giving up is not an option

It is quite important to know that the dream you carry is YOURS and no one else’.If you give up on it,you are only disappointing yourself and depriving the world of an opportunity to see you at your prime.Whatever may come your way,never give up on what you believe in.YES not everyone will be in support of what you are about,but you are sufficient enough to make it.

My pen is running out

While i go to look for another pen,let me encourage you to PUSH AND PUSH HARD.Never give up on what keeps you awake at night,and what gives you reason to wake up in the morning………and……… that is the “desire to achieve”.

 

 

 

A cup of coffee for the soul

The weather that needs coffee

I may not be able to confirm the weather in the part of the world you are,but i know that where I am now,sitting  and writing this piece is a bit chilly.The kind of weather meant for a relaxed session beneath the sheets between yourself,the tv and a  hot cup of coffee to keep warm.If only right?We have to work and make the paper,we all are chasing that,not unless i live on my island where things are done differently, i shall be pardoned for being wrong.

Can words keep us warm?

I am preparing  a cup of coffee for you,please accept it with warm hands.I promise it will not be bitter, i will add milk and sugar.Words can keep us warm,they can make us feel hot at the same time.Ever felt heated up by words,to an extent that you feel you can achieve anything here and now?Hope this will a post with words to make you feel that way.Its not only “I LOVE YOU”,that should give you are warm fuzzy feeling.

You CAN, it doesn’t matter who you are

Ever been told you CAN’T do certain things because you are from a poor background? Well let me pour some drops of hot coffee in your cup. You can do and achieve anything you set your mind to. Success is a one size fits all.It does not care about where you come from, what you had for supper, your size or shape.And it neither depends on the tone of your skin.So you CAN,just keep working hard.

Let go of fear, it’s not your friend

Why do you have so much fear?Let me pour in some milk to the coffee it is too black,maybe you are afraid to drink to take a sip.It is because you have allowed given fear refuge in your mind,now it is controlling your mind and actions.You need to let it go,open your doors and release it from refuge it does not belong there.You let go of fear by simply:

• Making a decision to let it go
• Facing your fears
• Putting your  thoughts into action-ACT

I hope you will choose friends correctly,do not just be generous with your friendship.

Resources or not,grind with the little that you have-it is doable

“I can’t because i don’t have this or that”,those are famous words used by most people,who constantly try to justify why they can’t achieve their dreams.“How many spoons of sugar do you take?”, let’s make the coffee drinkable.The minute you stop justifying and looking for solutions is the second you start winning.Anything can be done with less resources,I was taught to just do resources or not.And i have achieved quite a lot doing that.JUST DO,resources will find a way to come to you.

Please enjoy the coffee,while i fetch my cup.

Win a dress competition-TinaGail Bridal Palace

Times are tough

The tough economic times may lead to a lot of your plans being canned “till further notice”.It won’t be out of choice, but the situation is not permitting.Of all things you can put a halt on, the wedding is the most painful.Your partner may start thinking you are no longer interested.

A part solution makes a difference

What if I give you an option to cut costs?I am sure you are now interested to hear how.Wedding gowns make the wedding because without a wedding gown, a wedding is not a wedding right?NOD and agree, because it is true.

Here is how to cut on the cost of a wedding dress

TinaGail Bridal Palace is running a ‘WIN A DRESS’, where one lucky winner stands a chance to win an elegant wedding dress with.To enter is as easy and A, B, C.Simply send your love story, telling us how  you met (you and your fiance) and why you think you should win the dress (Even men can enter and state why their bride deserves to win the dress), on the TinaGail facebook account: TinaGail Bridal Palace.The competition closes on the 30th March 2016.Wishing all those who are interested luck.

………..This dress could be your.………………

So start typing……..GOOD LUCK

Are they really thinking about YOU?

We are victims of our own thoughts-sadly

I hate clinging to the notion of “its human nature”,it holds one back.Because it limits your thinking to perceptions and what others think life is and should be lived.”Life is what you make of it”, and this saying  should be part of your survival kits of life.Yes there may be issues that are common and have tried and tested  solutions available,but it does  not mean we have to always take it and apply it to our lives (people are different-seek to be) . An inability to try new things,hinders the  ability to grow beyond what we expect.

A new perspective

So in this introduction i will refrain from the use of the language that push us  in  the drowning side of negativity,but rather a langauge that highlights possibilities and positivity.Quite often, a lot of  us spend countless hours,thinking about what others think about us.Suprisingly in our thinking, we always wallow in the negative thoughts that people have about us.

Why do you focus on such

Why do we always worry about those who do not matter,whom we do not matter to.Do these people really think about us?I feel its an illusion and excuse to not progress.We always find an excuse or two,to justify our lack of progress.Stop pinning your lack of progress on people’s thoughts or perceptions which you are not even sure about. If they are thinking bad and say negative,why should it matter?It does not change you in anyway.

Let me step in to help

Let me burst your bubbles a little,well call me a party pooper i will take it with pride.I am a self-proclaimed negative party pooper.You will discover that people think less about you, because everyone in this world has a worry or two and a focus or more.Its not always about you, stop discouraging yourself by the eyes YOU think they give and silent responses YOU think they send out.

YOU are adequate

Let your thoughts be dominant,you do not always have to prove a point to anyone in this world.You only owe yourself success and fulfillment.Stop feeding yourself with negativity,and refrain from second guessing your abilitities.If you do not believe in yourself,no one will unfortunately.

As i step out

It’s sad that we create an injustice in our lives without realizing it at.Measure your progress and assess what you always think people are thinlking about you.Negativity from others should be a comfort of excellence not a trip down a muddy road of doubt,which builds fear and then eventually cripples your abilities of trying out things in your life.

 

 

Thank you mama for the lesson of reading

Reading is an important tool of life,i call it a survival kit for a better life.It feeds you with knowledge and helps you to be a front runner in a lot of things in life.Knowledge is power after all.

My story,could be similar to yours

Allow me to share my story about reading and what it has done for me.I grew up my grandmother working for a jewish family (the Boners),and as a standard as most of you can relate,i had to come to Joburg for holidays in June every year.Which meant that id have to speak to the Boners in a English.I was not good in it, i could only speak fluent Sepedi , I could not construct a proper sentence in English(Who can blame me,i’m from rural Limpopo).If my memory serves me right i was about 6 then.

In the evening when i arrived in joburg,on a sunday  after a long journey inside a “Mmethisha”(A bakkie),my grandmother would be on an English lesson tip. She would say “ge ba go dumedisha makgowa gosasa otlo reng?”(When they greet you tomorrow what are you gonna say),i would always say i dont know,and it was not because i did not want to try,i just did not know how to and i was young then.So her lesson would be of greetings and that would be it.In the morning,the Boners would come to greet me and i would respond in the manner my grandmother had taught me.But anything beyond that would lead me to a loadshedding state,id be blank.It worried my grandmother so much,to an extent that she bought a couple of books and gave them to my mother to help me read(GOD bless this two women).

Every evening before sleeping,my mother would cuddle me and read,then explain what she had read a few minutes later.After reading for me, she would make me read  just to test if i was listening.I remember the first story she ever read was  “little red riding hood”,the pictures in the book fascinated me,they made me want to flip to the next page.It became a norm,and through that i was able to construct sentences,and communicate beyond just a greeting.My mother’s lessons of reading and explaining, have made me to be where i am today,because through all those hours put in,i fell in love with reading and knowing.And all that has made me to be the man i am today.

I know mama may not be here,but i would love to thank you for the lesson of reading,it has built a pool over flowing with knowledge,lessons,life skills and survival techniques.The footprints of your work cannot be erased on this earth

My advice

Read a little,Gain more and be a front runner in life.Books do not only teach language and grammar,but they feed you with information that can help you progress for better.Try a book,flip a page or two and learn.

 

Hello Future

Everyone who can claim that they do not seek a better future, would be a man short of an honest bone within (some form of abnormality which I have not found a name for yet).Because we live for a better future, it is all we aspire to have. It is a common belief (the world and over) that better future brings with it great things; like happiness and fulfillment to single out a few. I want a happy and fulfilling life, certainly know you want it as well.

We are all on a quest of attainment of far much greater things in our lives and it doesn’t even matter where we come from or the tone of our skin. This informs the primary reason why we wake up each day to sweat in our respective disciplines. The goal is to pave the way for a better future.

Dear Future

Heita hola from kasi,Hello hi from the burbs,as a farmza I will say Thobela,sanibonani,nda,minjhani,molo.I do not know your gender by the way,I can think of you as a he or a she, sometimes A boy or a girl,perhaps a man?Well or maybe you are an it?i suppose I will just let the gender issue go for now,it seems a battle too hectic for me to even win(Still working on my muscles at gym).So to me you are a YOU,hope that is fair as i am scared to offend you.

I thought of you today,maybe everyday(As you are what we long for and seek as we believe you bring with great this) but today I felt it was appropriate to write a letter to you.Can we be friends please?Best friends at that,I know you don’t know me that well and I don’t you as well,but im saying lets give it a try.I have heard a lot of great things about you,and I have to say all I need in my life is greatness,hence the letter.So accept me please, and teach me to achieve greatness as a lesson from you.

Teach me to be

1.A believer-for in my belief I will know that nothing in this world is impossible,

2. To dream big-for I know dreaming big helps me to know that I cannot limit myself to average

3.To know that dreams and words alone do not bring success-teach me to act on what I want to achieve

4.Help me push myself,grant me discipline and give me tips to sharpen my skills,refine my passion and to constantly improve on self.

I have a feeling this is gonna be a great friendship.

Thanks for being a great friend(i claim you without permission),

Your faithfully,

ME !YOU!I

 

Dear Fear-the letter

Introduction

I got a new pen today,i hope it writes long enough till the end……………..

This letter is to encourage you to let go of fear as it disables your buds to think and cripples your ability to try.

The letter

Dear Fear

I am me,and I feel that there is no need for greetings,as I find you worthy of any.To be frank i want you out of my life for good.The friendship we have had has been nothing but negative and toxic,i am done with those.I need to grow,pardon me.

My eyes have been opened today,and I discovered that you have wasted my time and years alike. You made me believe I cannot do certain things in life. Made me doubt myself and to feel incapable of achievement. You have made me live with a thought that success was not for people like me.I classed and second guessed myself all the time.

Indeed you are cruel.You came into my life uninvited and made me take you as a friend,I did and became more comfortable with you. I trusted your judgments and the mentality you instilled in me.

Well today with no doubt, I  know i am better than you made me think.Hence I am parting ways with you. You are a time waster. I now realize my potential and learnt that the company you keep can make or break you,i am broken by you just glad that i am still standing. I am saying bye for I think its time I pick up the pieces and claim my life back without you.

Hope to not meet you again in my journey of success,please do me a favor by not crossing my path.

Yours in faith,
Me(your ex friend)

In parting ways

• Never allow fear to fiddle with you mind.
• Do not allow it to invade your plans and thoughts.
• Refuse to give it refuge in your life,its not worth it.

Bye bye fear……..Hello future.

Its all about what you think

Introduction

I know the tittle looks  vague when you read it in a mute tone,and in a loud tone it sounds selfish.Well maybe it is selfish,at times you have to be (there is nothing wrong with that).Because when you fail to think about and for yourself,no one will -its not their duty after all.The sad reality is that not everyone around you wishes you well (Not everyone is part of your fan club-*please take note*).

Its the minute you start losing yourself

When you start listening to what they say about you:

• start doubting yourself
• second guess yourself
• block progress in your life
• eventually stop trying

With the above mentioned, it clearly means you stop being yourself.Your dreams slowly stop making sense and eventually you convince yourself that it was not meant to be or that you are incapable of achieving certain things in life.People can make you do that,words possess a lot of power to make or break.Truth is:everything that you think about and attempt to do is meant to be (law of attraction),and therefore a conclusion cannot be drawn from lack of effort and attempt.

Claim your life back

It is important to know that the life is yours and it should be lived as such without fail. That is the thought that you need to carry with all your life.Avoid living through other people and their opinions,its just a lot of admin which is not worth your attention and time.

You have to claim your life back by:

• Firstly knowing that being selfish about yourself is okay-it is quite an important aspect of your life and growth
• knowing that its never about what they say,but what you say.And not about what they think,but what you think.
• Always remaining confident despite what is said or thought about you and your dreams alike
• Believing in your dreams

In conclusion

Learn to be independent in your thoughts and actions.Yes you need people in your life but never allow them to dictate what you can or cant achieve.You are sufficient enough to achieve anything you set your mind to.

Its always about what you think.If you think it can be done,then it be done.The same goes to even when you think it can be done,then i cant.Its about you.

Oops!!!my pen is no longer writing properly anymore,i think the ink is finished……….

 

You are worth more than kisses and words

To most kisses and words mean the world (they are everything) ,well maybe its because they are enjoyable and give you a fuzzy warm feeling.But enjoyable is not the start and end all of life,its not what we live for.And therefore they should not be the measure of your worth,because what happens when they are no longer there?Do you stop being worthy or lose value?*Think about it*

What is worth?

To me worth is value that is invaluable.More expensive than all minerals and billions of this world.A flip through the pages of the Cambridge dictionary led me to the definition subjected around “important” and “useful”.What makes you important or useful in a lip touching another?Nothing really,it may be a special feeling but it has got nothing to do with the measure of your worth.

What about words?

Words are what people can use today to make you special and make you feel horrible tomorrow.So never rely on words to be a measure of your worth,you will not survive because everyone you meet will have an opinion to exercise (you wont cope) .People come and go, its not a secret that they change with the wind.Therefore they are unreliable for analysis of such an important aspect of a human being (worth).

So what do i do to change it?

• It is important to understand the meaning of worth thoroughly (important and useful) ,to avoid being lured into thinking that you need another being to feel worthy
• Seek to understand  and accept yourself as you are
• Do not focus on your flaws,but on things that make you great
• Appreciate yourself
• Note that a lip touching another or words molded to impress do not have anything to do with your worthiness

Last word

Your worth is limited by your thoughts and own measure,not that of another being.Be responsible enough,to know that kisses will not always be there and words change with moods.DO YOU.BE YOU.LOVE YOU.YOU ARE WORTHY.